This post and its excellent response was exactly what I needed to read. Thank you. My partner was a virgin in his 30s when we met. A couple of tips from my his experience: 1. What will make you a good lover is a really desiring someone b paying attention to what they like c being willing to learn. I have found literally no downside to dating a virgin.
And there have been a few upsides, like the fun of being able to experience things with someone who is experiencing them for the first time. As far as how to tell him, my boyfriend fairly unselfconsciously told me from the very beginning. May I kiss you? SO not your fault. Perhaps you are demisexual. Why am I a virgin? So that must mean I have no interest in dating, sex, etc..
Well this seems like a contradiction. No, Let me explain. I also know I could not hide those two things long term unemployment and even virginity to women. The conventional wisdom is that a virgin will always perform poorly because its their first time. So if this is a given and I eventually do get to the point of having sex with a woman then she will just think I was a terrible lover.
Again this assumes that virgins are always poor lovers How true is this really BTW? It would be too juicy of a gossip story a 47 year old virgin not to tell someone about this 47 year old chronically unemployed virgin.
If that ever happened I probably would be forced to quit. So its a catch I hate being judged and humiliated. I will do almost anything to avoid being judged and humiliated. About being chronically unemployed. Plus she turned out to be a racist bigot anyway made some really bigoted comments about Jews and Hispanics so it was for the better anyway. Its group situations, like in parties, in which I avoid not that people ask me to go to parties of course.
What else can I think of that might explain my virginity? I might have somewhat high standards. I also might have a porn addiction to an extent that might make my need to go out and seek a real sexual encounter less of a need. I always dreamed of making hot passionate sex with some beautiful gorgeous hot woman or even multiple women in a threesome. I loved even though I recognized it as simply a fantasy. Even though I knew it was a fantasy, I at least thought I had somewhat of a chance of having a girlfriend who I loved and was sexually attracted to.
Now its clear that the likelihood of that happening is very remote so most likely I will die a virgin which is really depressing. Part of what the allure of having sex at least for me is having sex with someone who also desires you. I thought hard about committing suicide when I turned I never wanted this to happen. The one thing I always though was that having sex with a beautiful woman just had to be the most beautiful amazing thing in the world.
Its never going to happen. Not even a kiss. Nor do I want to experience it for myself. So I just stay at home all the time. The frustration that comes with being denied intimacy of any kind for decade after decade, well, it makes life seem pretty pointless. But in theory, it would be wonderful to be in a mutually caring relationship.
I too am a virgin, I am 34, and male. Women seam to ignore me, and when I try to get to know them they get scared and run away. For me I want to find the woman I want, get to know her very well and fall in love with her, preferably marrying her and then having sex. Sometimes I get optimistic, but this normally dies out after disappointment. I love this response. It was lovely. And I know that because as a 34 year-old virgin myself, I have had to hear that ignorant crap from other people.
And for me, I have to be in love to have sex. There was no way I was going to do a one-night stand or even friends with benefits. And now that I have met the guy that I think I can fall in love with, I find myself thinking about sex all the time. And I really hope it ends up happening with him. I hope that in the three years since you have written this letter, you have found your person, or that you will find him soon.
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Get weekly blog articles direct to your email inbox Be the first to read new articles every Friday. No spam. Unsubscribe anytime. Follow Us. Part of HuffPost Relationships. All rights reserved. People remain virgins for so many different reasons. For you, was it an intentional choice to abstain from sex? How far have you gotten with someone physically? Matt: Hugging. Not petting. Not fondling. Just hugging. No relationships. Paula Lobo via Getty Images.
What misconceptions about late-in-life virginity bother you the most? Are you open to having sex while dating, or just sort of indifferent? Or at least company.
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